E-Indeed: The Blog

It’s always interesting how a comment can turn into the topic for a full post (Especially when my idea reserve is low). I’ve got to thank Matt on this one, for his comment regarding the Mid-Singles Conference in Huntington Beach. I went to the site, because it sounds like a blast–and I found this presentation. I think that it is one of the best presentations on the various needs of different groups of singles that I’ve ever seen.

Only a few thoughts on this one today–I know where I fall in that mix–I’m definitely in group 3. I’m going to do more of a point by point on the implications:

• The longer you are in stage 3, the harder it is to get out

True enough. The longer you stay here, the more you like it, or, from another perspective, the less attractive you become. Also, as time passes by, the age gap between you and most of the single girls gets ever larger. I’m not going to argue this one.

• No one EVER gets married from stage 3

Again, no arguments–it’s obvious to me that if you’re not actively pursuing marriage, it’s not going to happen. On that note, if you’re not actively pursuing making a marriage last, it’s probably not going to do that either.

• “Too Good” at being single to give it up

I can’t agree here–I’ll admit, I’ve grown to love the comfort zone of being single. However, I also know that if the right circumstances were to come about, I’d gladly give it up.

• Your “FEAR” keeps you insulated from risk

Yep, no need for comment here.

• Involvement in “other things” becomes a distraction or an excuse for not dating

Again, I agree–although the “other things” for me are those unimportant things like “job” and “family” and “Church.”

The fact that you are in a singles ward, are interested in joining a singles ward, or are a frequent visitor to a singles ward shows, with some certainty, that you are not altogether satisfied being single, therefore not altogether satisfied being in stage 3

TRANSLATION: if you are really “OK” being single, then you wouldn’t be in a singles ward to begin with

This bit I disagree with wholeheartedly. It’s probably accurate for a majority of lifelong members. However, I know for myself that I am only comfortable in a singles ward. I’ve gone to family wards, and feel 100% out of place. Why? Not because I’m single, but because I have only ever been a member of a singles ward. That’s going to be a hard transition for me to make, whenever I do get married. Given my choice, I’d stay in a singles ward for the rest of my life, even when I am married. And yes, I do know how unusual that sentiment is.

Anyhoo, that’s my thoughts on that. Most of it is very, very true–and I could just be getting stubborn on the other bits :).